A man and a woman returning home from work. She conveyed her boss today if she did not finish the project on time is fired, and his customers were nervous all day demanded from immediate solutions. They meet at 7 pm. He goes to the couch, pen on paper or turn on the TV, his face wearing an expression that says: “For me the world is dead”, and she begins to straighten up the house. While she series, she tells him about her day, the boss, and What exactly does he think I was a writer and from? ” And that it is not willing to work overtime and more.
He almost did not hear her, or more True-his ears filter out the background noise that engrossed in the newspaper until he hears unusually high tones and reveals that she was going away, broom in one hand and her face very unhappy. She sternly not to care about her and grumbling why he did not listen to her.
This is a situation that occurs in normal, everyday-Many couples in each pair with a slightly different scenario, but the problem is the same – is “sitting on the couch and listen”, and Why She did not stop talking? “.
Did you know that this is happening because of a lack of hormones? And you know that with very little awareness of what was happening in your body during the workday, you can bridge this problem in relationships and improve your communication?
Here’s some of what happened when you’ve worked hard and you managed even a cup of coffee:
During a situation that evokes tension, regional cerebral blood flow and makes one emotional feeling of stress. Women in flowing blood eight times more emotional brain areas than men. Therefore, we can say that naturally women tend to be more stressed than men. So many times men do not understand why women “make a fuss over a little thing.”
A man run into the situation makes him uncomfortable, but that has nothing to do about it, choosing to deal with it by being there it aside and simply choose to forget about it. A woman who meets a disturbing situation beyond her control, however, finds an outlet for her frustrations by talking about it.
Dr. John Gray in his book “Why Mars and Venus Collide” (Venus on fire, Mars on Ice) states that whoever actually takes things out of proportion are actually men-they think women do every little matter of life and death, when in fact all I did not. They want total share their feelings – tell that the man in their life.
And why is it so important for them to talk about it?
The female brain’s way of dealing with a rising stress level, is to release hormones serotonin and Aoksitotzin- very soothing to women. Men who want to reduce stress produce testosterone and dopamine. If you dont know what to talk about with your wife, you can read the excellent list on barenakedlife.com
This raises another enormous difference ways that men and women calm the Atzmm- to produce testosterone and dopamine man to sit still, do not think about anything and maximum zap the remote control. Loran was watching television lowers pressure in men after a hard day’s work, because it’s time enabling them to produce dopamine and rejuvenate liquidated following the daily work stress. When it is not possible for them to rest so- Men tend to withdraw themselves and “get out of the shell” back in action tonight, because the hormone dopamine is the brain that makes them the motivation to act.
Women, however, should make more serotonin to relax. And not surprisingly is- that when they talk about what’s bothering them, and feel listened are- brains produce serotonin! And their stress levels start to decline, aimed serotonin regulates blood flow to the brain emotional crazy in their areas.
We all have reservoirs of serotonin. But women are wasting their databases more quickly since every little thing these stressful. In addition, men produce 50 times more serotonin than women, and at a rate of 50 times faster, so they have no shortage of serotonin in the database at the end of a day’s work, so they are also much less excited. Once men understand women listening to their means to help them produce more serotonin and feel better, they would understand this is one of the easiest ways to improve a relationship that is well known as a good woman, her man, too good. Or in the words of John Gray itself- when talking about hormones, it is completely Ladies first!